EXPERIENCED / Community and Sometimes Just-Self-Titled
Dominant and Daddy
(I disklike referencing it as DD -DaddyDom is so cliché -
You either are both or one or the other- I'm not fucking OptimasPrime the Truck... No I rather be TITLED as OptimasPrime the ''Truck and Trailer'' - Get it ?
Adding them together is like saying im a DaddyAlphaMale)
I've been in multiple "Live in" D/s relationships as well as my first relationship in the Lifestyle was with a Babygirl (DaddyDom / 'little'girl (but she was my babygirl, not so much your typical little, more so of a sassy, attention whore who enjoyed attention and a soft attentive voice full of compassion and understanding
I love being a....
Shibari Rigger,
Call me Sir Kinky Columbus - Knighted' Explorer of all Kink's and Territory... Seeked out by fucking Sailing Ships of course Ye' Winch's
(sex&lifestyle clubs all over the world)- (Shibari Dojo/Studio's)-(Sexually Free, Resorts - also known as ''Nudist Resorts, events, Work Shops, LIFE experiences, Country's that Support Freedom of Sharing love- Same Gender, Multiple Partners (poly) - With no worry of ridicule, no rules or requirement to perform, act or do anything predetermined as "Taboo/ Not allowed" -
Basically - All these places, locations, events, bnusinesses that operate these "Free Love Clubs / Resorts" run on a few principles..
and
-= ALWAYS EXPECTED Laws of Community SEX PARTY's =------
These RULES and Steps on HOW TO PROPERLY CONDUCT YOURSELF in A WAY THAT MAKES PEOPLE AROUND YOU COMFORTABLE & MAYBE MIGHT INVITE YOU TO HAVE SEX WITH THEM / HE/HER/His Wife/ Her Husband...... In other words..
The difference between CREEPS AND WEIRDO's - Who quickly GET EXCORTED OFF PROPERTY ----- And being the guy all the women want to fuck in the room!
(Curious how to act and behave at your FIRST SEX CLUB EVENT?? - Look no further, just below :))
Organizations created to Run/finance and maintain a large Sex Dungeon w/ Volunteers that monitor the environments to ensure everyone is SAFE- Feeling secure and respected in their own "versions"
1. you have to come with a partner (male/female) and you have to leave with THEM - As a group no specification - This ensures noone goes home with soemone by accident - without being able to consent as alot of these venues/places/partys/dungeons have OPEN BAR / Alcohol and some drug allowed venues-
2. You act according to that would benefit the comfort of others -
THIS MEANS NO FUCKING WEIRDO- Shit, Interrupting some ones space, a couples area, trying to interact with ANYONE without asking in a correct environment - You don't approach a male and female having sex on a community soffa and start touching the MALE or FEMALE- and you do NOT ASK to join them in this scenario... Unless they BOLDLY - See you (Well spaced away) and verbally "Hey !! Yeah you! DesertDom, come join us man!" - <- This is how you get to enter a SCENE - You also do not get to- Strictly are not allowed to FILM/ P
You would conduct yourself in one of these places like everyone was invisible and the only people there were the ones you were actively pursuing pre-attendance, friends in your "party" who want to F eachother, Cool its all GOOD!!! You can pretty much do whatever you want.. With a few restrictions like "USE DROP CLOTHS" (Bodily fluid safety nets) To keep germs and blood/diseases WHATEVER if ANYTHING- Doesn't infect, contaminate any areas!
- This is being mindful of the people around you.. Some may have a sexually transmitted disease - So Sanitation, Protecting club furniture & equipment from your possibly contagious bodily fluids is REQUIRED..
You can't just shoot a load of cum on the floor and walk away... You got to think about what may or is going to happen in one of your "SCENES" before it happens.. Towels, drop cloths, blankets- All Sanitized / Clean etc are usually brought by a prepared "SWINGER"
And a scene is usually prepped by the area of use being covered by personal blankets, with towels near by / and safe sex items - Lube, Condoms, Etc all within reach - without creating a mess any time , keeping your belongings close- not in the personal space of others as well..
So with that being said.. It's simple.. Show up with a "PARTNER" - Communicate with them before and during - Make sure you both understand what the other MAY OR MAY NOT DO... Your about to enter a place where there are very little to no rules about cloths and sex- Just to mind your manners.. If your Girlfriend gives another guy a handjob and that's going to PISS YOU OFF- you better not allow a situation where your ANGER can be present- Quick way to get promptly ******ed OFF proprerty.. You should have a VERY clear understanding on how your partner is going to behave (OR NOT) - What their intentions are, what your intentions are.. Having a Clear and open conversation about
"WHAT GOALS DO WE HAVE TO ACHIEVE AT THIS VENUE" ------??? How might we set one of these goals - and hope to achieve one of these goals.. For instance.. Male & Female - GOAL: FINDING another woman to join them (Always communication) - You never just JUMP Into these scenes (it always starts by conversation first) -
THE STORY OF MASTER M HATTER - MY FIRST SHIBARI MENTOR - ROLEMODEL... And Surprisingly enough- THE FIRST FALSE DOMS THAT WAS BROUGHT TO THE LIGHT AS ONE OF THE BIGGEST INSTAGRAM FAMOUS E-DOM's that WAS NOTHING MORE THAN A SADISCTIC ABUSIVE Moral DAMAGING WOMAN CONFIDENCE DESTROYER AND DEMORALIZING TORTURE INFLICTING SICK- SAD-EXCUSE-FOR A MAN...
Absolutely the OPPOSITE of what a DOMINANT in the BDSM World should stand for and be...
He should be someone you view as SAFE, INSPIRING - Spending time with this person should VISUALLY AND EASILY make you a better YOU.. A Better you - in the EYES OF YOU ALONE.. NOT WHAT ANYONE ELSE SAYS IS RIGHT- or WRONG..
This person should inspire honesty, truth, doing the right thing, being very understanding, a great communicator - A pheromonal teacher and - When there are weakness or places for growth.. This person should have absolutely no fear or worry of ANYONE FINDING OUT..
Instead - These "SHORT COMINGS" - Should be laughed at , brought up as mere comical ways in which this person found it humerous they lacked/ or were underskille dat something for no reason other than "TRUTH"
"I can't read" - "i have some issue where my mind can't put together words correctly so I struggle at _____ and this is what I do in hopes of growth and getting better at this"
A Dominant "Male" Should want nothing more than to educate others of themselves and eachother and be happy, open and honest about any critisim or negative views- They should motivate you to be honest with yourselves and be PROUD by doing so.... Pride, Self respect, love and serenity - Should be the main focuses of what they WISH to share with you, if they have any paths in life to self betterment- if they see something that needs to be fixed.. it should not bother them, but if it bothers you, then they would be so motivated to intervene and extend their hand - in a quest and adventure together to better understand these negative thoughts of ones self - and do whatever it takes to free the mind of the prison and make it a STRENGTH in the end.... not a weakness or flaw... but a opportunity to self-explore, learn and better eachother, together..
ALWAYS..
Here is the STORY OF ONE BAD MASTER HATTER - A shibari crafter from the UK and Wellknown (used to be ) Insagram STAR and once RESPECTED and well known Dominants , educators (sadly / writer) - And Sadly (use the word yes again) a Pioneer to the Communities in the UK- From where BDSM was once quiet and husugh hush.. and is now not publicly TABOO.. or whispered.. But outlets of education, workshops and self-bettering workshops for anyone in the lifestyle to practice their love for this World and to get together with others like minded and motivated to share their knowledge and skills in the MANY practices:
"One of the greatest things I like to share is my experience not only doing some of the more dangerous "interests" but - how to IDENTIFY a potentially Sociopathic Abusive Sadist - Who has no intention on your love, desire and goals.. But only ensuring they get whatever pleasure at the expense of negating your safety, livelihood, with no regard to your mental health, your emotional well being... None of it.. It's hard.. These dirtbags always are viewed as Polite, cordial , structured, on time, clean, socially adapt - and well liked by others around....
These Evil Sad Excuses for "human" Abusive shitheads - Are usually "ALWAYS" attractive, attentive, hospitable & usually financially secure and offering their Financial "Stability" at no cost to you, NOTHING , For free, Of course! It's on the nice thing and right thing to do - to help others out..... Financially, Spiritually - Super nice and months could go by...
Not one thought in your mind something is wrong.....
BUT TO ME!!! RED FLAGS ARE FUCKING EVERYWHERE...... " Super nice guy, doesn't want anything in return" - Poor communication about "WHAT THEY DESIRE OR WANT FROM YOU".. 4 months down the road.. You find out - All that money and support wasn't for free.. "THEY ARE NOW YOUR DOM, you singed some meaningless (to me) contract... "You proposed to sign a SLAVE contract" - Meaning your sole purpose of LIFE is to serve their every wish, want and order.... You disapearing for a few days at a time- even a week is nothing to your personal life friends as they all know your in this crazy hot sexy - BDSM SEX Fantasy Land.. Living your life how you want to..
Noone knows - he's about to become abusive.. Your about to become a captive... For real..
And maybe you sleep in a cage for a couple days and he's SUPER POLITE, "its apart of the play" - But your going to "make more mistakes" - he's not going to be pleased,
"Your just not as good at making me happy for some reason, I don't know why, your beautiful and loving.. It's just...... I just don't believe our play.. It seeems so fake to me... You need to convince me - This is real, this is what you want"...
The verbal put downs sound like constructive critism.. The play always had some spanking, paddling and such..
But the more mistakes are made.. The harder it is, - Harder the paddle strikes.. The longer the punishments are...
You love to be spanked / paddled, you've done it so so so many times with him before... Theres no way it hurts now.. its not harder, this is my mind being weak..
I absolutley don't want him to know im being weak and whineing about this.. He for sure won't believe this "Roleplay" - I have to do better..
But you can never make a narcissist happy, they are never happy with themselves, from the first time you two had a couple sexual experiences - He naturally by design is getting bored.. Like life is a timer to death.. A ABSUSIVE / FAKE DOM / NARACCISTIC ABUSER - Will get less and less pleasure by whatever sexual endeavors you two share..
The Physical - Impact (whips strikes paddles etc) - Will become more and more common.. and not for just punishment.. No - it's obvious if all you do is get paddled all day for doing something wrong.. That this isn't fun and its time to walk away..
No - more abusive, painful, body damaging type acts will pop up like wild fire.. Scarring, Visual Change from ones own cause by act- The things you start to "EXPLORE" will hurt your body, it will damage your skin*****long visual disfigurement will occur.. - We are talking tearing of skin tissue in sensitive areas.. Burns, Branding usually a big sign - These people will be solely motivated to cause the opposite of your view of beauty to occur... You will hate your body, hate the result of the torture..
You will mentallly be broken, disliking yourself, confidence demolished.. Your sole inner purpose will be to do whatever it takes to please this person in fear of punishment... You will believe noone will want a weak person.. This guy/person/woman is the best I deserve and all I will ever hope to get.. I am LUCKY - considering how "loose" he has made me, the scars and bruises on what was the favorite part of my body....
You will tremble of the thought of anyone seeing how "damaged" you are..
This is just a quick scenario of many many times over this has happened to men and women in the lifestyle.... Sometimes the abuser never gets "FOUND OUT" -
But there has been times i've been shocked to find out- Many women have got together and shared on social media how these events took place.. How the absue went on- But because "THIS GUY/GIRL" is so well respected in these communitys - If you were to say anything bad- Noone would believe you, everyone would point the finger at you as
"A SICK TWISTED PERSON TRYING TO DAMAGE THE REPUTATION OF A GOD"
With little hope of ever being free- feeling good about yourself.... You will in fact destroy the healthy relationships in your life.. So you have noone to turn to- Noone to listen to you....
Your personal life becomes no life, no friends, anyone that is a threat to you being confident, strong and having a voice will be the target... Turning you against the people that show concern for your wellbeing.. You will defend your abuser..
IT WILL BE TOO LATE...... You will endure months, years, alot of your life to the sole purpose of doing whatever this person says.... In hopes of just sheer acceptance by them... Making them happy and you would never want to dissapoint...
Yes this stuff happens al the time.. One of my highest regards and appreciation / respect I had for a Dom who I wanted to be like, Mentor me, He was fantastic at Shibari, all the women wanted them to touch them, to tie them... I looked at him and thought - I want to be like this guy,... Hes so cool, famous on Insta.. I bought Thousands of dollars of ROPE he made.. I stiil own alot of the rope I use- He made..
His name was "Master Mad Hatter" - MHROPE was his buisness.. everyone in the Shibari world respected him online.. His Instagram lives - tieing women.. got THOUSANDS of viewers, customers, followers... I wanted to be like this guy..
Then randomly he Disapeared.. And in my hope to find him, find out where he disapeared to- What happened ... Brought me to a LONG INSTAGRAM STORY- with the same #HASHTAG that was used to find THOUSANDS of his pictures he shot, and stories, and videos..
IT was a Confession of a woman of here last 3 years of her life.. How she LOVED THIS MAN, worshiped him.. and how he abused her, and others that were his submissives.. Come to find out- ALot didn't believe this girl.. "he made her look like a sick sad person hoping to damage his rep for no reason" - But SO MANY Different girls were named - as other victims.. This was SUCH A LONG detailed confession - it was like a LIFE MEMOIR, Detailing ALL of his actiosn in his life, all of his secrets, ALL of the details of his life and how he would treat , abuse and protect these women from Damaging his REP- incase someone tried to "OUT HIM" he would have them "BANNED" - "Socially Isolated and kicked out of all the communities of BDSM in his STATE - all the organizations he controlled and people- that would straight up... Make this person disapear online - Made to look like a crazy stalker..
I don't know how this MEMOIR/ CONFESSION / STORY - Damaged him so dee***ut so deep.. Destroyed all the protective barriers..
But it did... And he Deleted every trace of him online - Created a NEW COMPANY- and the company was labeled and named and made POPULAR - As "MASTER HATTER THE ABUSER THAT DID ALL THIS BAD STUFF - And is now hiding under said alias"...
It is said he still lives with his wife in the same house the rope is made. His Submissive's house is where the abuse - and all the perversions and discontent / Abuse lives in.....
But now all he has is his Submissive, his isolation, some business that sells rope he makes (he will always SELL ROPE and be very popular) - Theres just no way To get this message and history/truth to the customers of the new business....
Especially considering all SOCIAL MEDIA outlets are now ghost towns... No communication shared.... No way to ruin his compan***ut his "KINGDOM OF INTERNET FAME" is dead....
He will no longer "APPEAL" to these young women who hope to be tied by him, with the vary rope they buy- and spend alot of money on.... It will never be tied to their skin by his ABSUE
Ever AGAIn....
This was the first instance in which someone i looked up to - as a Mentor and Hero.. just blindly came to light as one of the most sadistic abusive narcasstic ; ''FALSE DOMS"
